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No matter how confident you become, you will still have moments where you question yourself, and your confidence takes a hit. Even Rihanna, Adele, and Beyonce have openly admitted to having stage fright. If Adele and Beyonce lose their confidence from time to time, what can we mere mortals do? The solution isn’t to avoid losing confidence- because that’s inevitable- but to get it back as quickly as possible by reviewing your awesomeness through a confidence journal.
The Write Stuff
It is so much easier to review how awesome you are if you already have a record of the awesome things you’ve learned and done. Make a list of your strengths, skills and achievements that you can review whenever you need a little confidence pick-me-up.
But here’s the deal, you need to write it out physically. This list works best when you incorporate the tactile sensation of writing the list; feeling the paper in your hands, seeing the ink bring words to life. Don’t just type this up, write it out.
I use a mini notebook as my confidence journal, with each page dedicated to a strength, skill or accomplishment. Having a physical product you can hold in your hands makes the achievement more real, memorable, and believable. I cannot argue with, or discount, what I’ve written.
Start where you are
Begin by writing down everything you can think of that is part of your awesomeness. The things you’ve accomplished, the skills you’ve learned, the obstacles you’ve overcome. Don’t forget to include your strengths. Just because something comes easy to you doesn’t mean it’s not valuable and shouldn’t be celebrated.
This may feel weird to you, especially if you’re used to downplaying your awesomeness. But, bestie, this notebook is just like your 6th Grade Diary- for your eyes only. Brag away so you can remind yourself of everything you’ve accomplished on those days your confidence is in the toilet.
Make it fun
Visual aids can be helpful, so consider turning your journal into a mini scrapbook. Draw or include mementos, like ticket stubs, thank you notes, or photos, that reminds you of those big accomplishments. The more tangible it becomes, the more real it becomes.
Add color, doodles, or sketches. Write in calligraphy. Make it your own, and something you’ll enjoy browsing when you are in the confidence valley and need a reminder of your awesomeness.
There is no right or wrong way, only your way. The only rule is that you create the book and use it.
Tools, including a confidence journal, are only helpful when we use them
Having a hammer is great, but if you don’t use it when you need it, what’s the point? Tools are only helpful when we use them, so make sure you use your confidence journal.
I moved to a tiny, pocket confidence journal because I forgot about it for three years! I made a list of all the ways I rocked, and then put it in my nightstand drawer, never to be seen again. In a cleaning purge, I found it and reviewed it. And dang, it was exactly what I needed.
So, I started a new one and made sure I would have it with me at all times to I could continue recording my wins. It fits in my purse and is with me always. When my imposter syndrome or anxiety bubbles up, I grab the “Ways In Which Windy Is Awesome” book and start reading. It reminds me that my track record of surviving hard times is 100% and I am stronger and more capable than I give myself credit.
Make sure you use your Book of Awesome. Continue adding to it as you accomplish new things and learn new skills. When you need a confidence boost, sit down and read through the journal. By remembering how far you’ve come and how much you’ve accomplished already, your confidence will rise.
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